The great Indian wedding.... :)

“AND YOU ARE COORDIALLY INVITED TO THE WEDDING OF……”


With the wedding season just round the corner and soo many of my frnds , distant cousins and knowns getting married, looking at the wedding pics of “ ME AND HUBBY, US and HAPPINESS” just makes me wonder the extravagant affair that the marriages and the whole Celebration has become.. Its not just the two families that celebrate,the extended family ( the people u have just seen in pictures and once-twice seen them at the FAMILY weddings) the neighbours, distant friends (friends ke friends ), the not-so-friendly colleagues and the gossip mongers (esp the aunties who are just there to find faults and discuss them later over tea.. ), all are a part of the GREAT INDIAN WEDDING..
The part of the country I come from (Sadda Punjab :P), marriages have nw become a full Gurinder chaddha or a Karan Johar movie with all the colour and the grandeur.. The sheer magnanimousness of the MARRIAGE INDUSTRY (I’d like to call it tht.. Seriously dude, its competing wit IT in revenue..:)) can make eyes pop out and pockets shrink.. The “pyaar se lena dena” has reached its upper limits in the weddings.. Sure the normal families now a days r nt asking for dowry or any kind of PYAAR, but the show off and the DUNIYA ka dikhawa as its known as, needs to be done. And trust me that could be anything from the “BACCHO K LIYE MITHAI” to the “DADDY JI ke liye car and MUMMY JI ke liye haar”.. If you are lucky , u might even witness a wedding with sparkling diamonds for the aunties, uncles and the spa coupons for the attendees (yeah yeah.. will give references later if u wanna check and crap I missed it.... )..
Marriage is a big decision in itself.. spending ur whole life with a single person and that too 24 * 7 with him/ her.. the adjustments , the lifestyle change.. its all big and probably needs to be celebrated but does it all need to be done at the cost of the poor parents.. Looking at all this has made me a little more NON REPULSIVE to the families who go into deep thoughts with the worries of BETION KI SHAADI.. its like a huge financial investment that actually requires a lifetime of saving man… .. I might be wrong and the scene is definitely changing but still the GRAND INDIAN WEDDING is here to stay and is increasing in magnitude with each year.. The wedding season fashion shows and bridal exhibitions are not limited to the upper class now but even the middle class is eyeing the best goodies in the market.
The whole marriage season not only revolves around the wedding in ur house, but its like Christmas and new year week in the US.. the months of nov- jan are booked for the wedding season(auspicious time for marriage acc to the pandit jeez) and everyone in Punjab starts getting ready for making rounds at the numerous weddings..” wo Mr Chadda ki beti, wo Mr Khanna ka pota” and the nvitation list goes on and on… Its fun though to be just an attendee and gobble on the goodie and endless snacks and cuisines served at the shaadi.. ( Punjabi wedding at least should be given awards for the variety of food and the khana).. M so sure there must be many like me who gain pounds due to the yummyyy food there.. Its actually a gr8 motivating factor to brave the cold winters to attend the “TAARO KI CHAAV” main weddings.. :P
Marriages were supposed to be the celebration of the union of two people who promise to stay with each other thru thick and thin… its the declaration of a couple to the world that they are committed and will be loyal to each other.. To me (and I believe same for most of the people around me), Marriage is a pious promise of togetherness that is celebrated with the people you care about.. Ur friends and family.. But whatever maybe anyonez reason or thinking might be, It ll always be a celebration no matter how simple or extravagant…. .. I may say anything and everything about the weddings and the money spent.. actually money burnt in the weddings but the truth is that everyone wants a perfect start to the new phase in their life and wants to celebrate t with the world no matter how big or small.. So herez to the upcoming wedding season Guys…. Happy celebrating and god bless.. :)

Friends.. :)

Hey.. This one is for all my SINGLE friends(apologies inplicit.. :D)

“Sometimes u get so close 2 ur friends tht u get jealous if any1 else starts getting 2 come 2 close..”

This general remark made me think if its really a generic thought or totally personalized. Being possessive about the SPECIAL person in ur life is a worldwide accepted phenomenon bt havnt v just crossed the line by reacting in the same way for our friends? Is it tht v get 2 possessive abt them n get jealous of the 3rd person entering their life? Do we start thinking tht the new relationship might get between us n bring a rift in the strong bond of friendship??
If I talk abt myself, I m flexible n non possessive (Hey hey.. Don’t start smiling..OK.. This is my blog n I m writin so I win… :D).. So technically I would love 2 c my NON COMITTED friends getting romantically along with any OTHER girl/guy.. J But facts depict otherwise.. As soon as I get 2 know abt any girl/guy being remotely connected wit any 1 of my friends, my mind automatically starts sending distress signals and it starts finding faults in the female/male(no offense girlies/guys)..
Lets start collecting data (excuse the MBA jargons) from the latest first.. The tarras r a well knit GANG of girls n guys.. Surprisingly, the existing GOOD FRIENDS are no threat.. :P.. they r well respected and loved equally by every1 in the gang.. However, any new entries have a real tough time..Truthfully speakin,so tough that there have been no additions in the gang since its inception.. L.. as soon as v get hints of any TARRAs interest in any girl around, we UNINTENTIONALLY start finding faults in them.. n trust me ts nothing personal or deliberate.. Just an involuntary action.. L..The ANALYSIS at times is in the form of observed behaviour which can crudely be termed as FAULT FINDING...N sometimes the faults r as stupid as the colour of her hair is too dark or too light. N even tht she moves her head 2 much while talking....Yeah yeah I accept tht most of the times they r just senseless comments made generally n nothing personal at all. J..N trust me, at least I didn’t c the harm its causing 2 my friends till sometym ago..
Looking at the history, I dnt think my girls gang 4m coll has had any problems accepting this fact. V have never really liked each other GOOD FRIENDS..:P.. n I thought tht best friends were ur CRY CUSHION after an argument or fight so u didn’t mind them having an OPINION abt them.. J.. n so if they took ur side n gave u the age old “he is a jerk” line, it just meant tht they r being supportive.. J. Hence while the same friends would appreciate the SPECIAL person if he was being nice n made u happy, the loyalties would just take a 180 degrees turn if u shed a tear.. J..
Guess it’s a universal phenomenon tht once ur friends get 2 know abt ur crush, even their eyes tease u wen he/she walks into the room or talks 2 u.. J.. How many times have v tried 2 hide r crushes 4m r friends coz they would make sure he/she noticed u, even though u would be blushing red on even lookin at them.. JBut thts wat makes friends gr8.. v know each other inside out n so tend think we r in a position 2 decide wats gud n wats bad 4 them.. :). But in doing so, we might just loose prospective n behave like dominating mothers/fathers who get a little jerky. Guess v don’t want them 2 stumble on a stone so v scare them tht it’s a mountain they r heading. V love them soo much tht nobody is too gud 4 them anymore.. J.. the tests (unintentionally) get tougher and hence every move matters.. but trust me, if u tell ur friend tht u r head over heels for some1, they ll b the first ones 2 give u all the tips n tricks.. J.. n even though we might seem 2 b overly possessive about r friends, it’s the love that wants us 2 look out 4 them and make sure tht HE/ SHE IS THE RIGHT ONE.. :D

three months - a lifetime..

We all like glass images trying to be all sparkly and perfect to everybody who looks at us. All poised and calm. Shoving things and deeds under the carpet so that the PERFECT IMAGE is not tarred. Have never been able to understand why people think that others around them have no ears, eyes or brains at all.  Funny though. Have been bought up in this world with the same set of values like almost all kids are. But 1 most important thing I have learnt is tht its important to be humble and grounded than concentrating on being perfect to the world. Have never wanted to be perfect. Loved being the tomboy and the imperfect mortal that I am. Still get happy on seeing the drops of rain falling on the ground, getting drenched in the fountain in a posh mall.. (trust me I was the 1st one but many followed ).. and its not just me, it’s the family and friends that have helped me understand that its so important to understand and accept who u are and be happy with it. . The last 3 months have been a gr8 learning time. When I came 2 Bangalore, I thought it was going to be over so soon that I wouldn’t even notice wats happening all around. N like many other times, was soo wrong. These 3 months have taught me so much that probably even a year wouldn’t have.
Have never been the hardcore studious types and so hav never looked at tasks as marks waiting to be put in the pocket. 1 big advantage of doin so is that I am able to decide what I like and what I don’t irrespective of the marks or result-value of it. But surprisingly liked my work so much that don’t mind spending loonng hours in office or the weekends.  guess this made things easier for me. So after a long time, really liked the office, the ppl, the work.. hope it turns out well. 
Also have learnt the importance of friends and family like never before. Have been lucky 2 have 2 gr8 frnds here who have helped me throughout my stay here n coz of those JUNKIES, have been able to njoy my stay in here.. .. guess saying thanks is a sheer formality for u ppl. The fun, leg pulling, weekend movies, sitting for hours at the stairs and lake.. OMG, I m soo gonna miss the tym we three spent together. God really wanted me to have a gud tym here so he sent these 2.. 
Had the time of my life with these ppl but trust me not a day went by without us sitting tog n not mentioning the TARRAS. .. have missed u ppl soooo much tht I cant even put it in words now. All of us r soo different from each other but still so similar.. so loveable.so cute.. we might not be complete alone but tog we are definitely a gang… love u guys n del. Some1 whoz believed in me throughout and helped me survive in the toughest tyms when I was away from home. Muaaahhhhh 
Didn’t anticipate that these 3 months would teach me lessons tht we take a lifetime to understand and learn. Will have mixed feelings when I leave the city, happy coz m goin back to friends I have missed so much and sad coz the city and the time spent here will be missed. The time almost flew by but will cherish it forever in my heart.. thanks Bangalore…

Chances..

Life gives u chances.. then its up to u to take them or let them pass by silently..Guess i took mine..So here I m now in the city of bangalore. guess wat, even in the month of may(well almost may..:)), the city is cool.. for some1 like me whoz lived in the scroaching summers in the north, its a SHOCKING RELIEF..:)
Anyways just joind this new place for my interns n its amazing.. guess love the new change.. :).. miss my frnds here a lot though(miss u TARRAS....:)).it would b soo much fun if u all and udi wer also here.. :D
Hey btw was just sittin n wrote this up.. here it goes. :)


Looking around in the new place,
Everybody is happy with a smiling face.
A smile makes the world go round,
N here nobody even moves without a sound.
some run, some giggle, even some1 who sings,
It feels they all can fly, they all hav wings.
Responsibilities , I heard, take a toll,
Bt here everybody seems 2 be on a roll.
And trust me its nt like they r not workin,
They do it all, and definitely not jerking..
Away from home,. Away from my land,
They r always ready with a helping hand..
Miss my loved ones and the gr8 friends,
They r always there, not like the temp trends..
Thought I would be on the run,
Always working in the sun..
But here its an altogether different story,
It’s the work plus all the glory..
This a place I love to come to,
In the mornings I yearn to run to.
Might just be like another trend,
But it really works, my dear friend.
IT jobs are also fun,
Not just GEEKS on the run..
Good I found a place like this,
Now I know life gives u chances u should never miss.

Outcome of senti sad movies...

Hey just saw a senti hindi movie with a sad ending.. N v all now wat the stupid movies can do 2 u.. u sit, possibly cry(yeh yeah.. shrug off the idea bti m proud of the OFT HEART tht i hav... :D) n some ppl like me write...So this is wat i hav 2 say..
Caution: its a hindi poem writen in nglish so willneed an extra effort.. :) .. N for ppl who cant make sense outta it, ask some1 2 read it 4 u..

HERE IT GOES.. ALL THE BEST.. :)

Kahin door ek kasbe ki hai ye kahani,
Jahan har gali main the ashiq aur khoon main rawani.
Har kisi ko banani thi misaal,
Koi tha sikandar koi Jamaal..
Har ek ki zuban pe kisi ka naam,
Bas yehi gaate the woh subah shaam.
Koi jaagta sari raat didaar ko,
Koi aawazein deta apne pyaar ko..
Un main tha ek sehma sa ladka,
Ek din dekh ek ladki uska bhi dil dhadka..
Ladki ko door se dekh wo deewana hua,
Bas us shama ka wo parwana hua.
Khada rehta wo ladki ki gali ke bahar woh ghanto hazaar,
Aur ladki bhi khidki pe aati baar baar.
Bas aankhon hi aankhon main hua ikraar,
Usi gali main panpa un ka pyaar.
Par har kahani main hote hain kuch to pehre,
Koi dukh halke aur kuch gehre.
Ladki ke liye ek din aaya rishta,
Kaha tujhe doli main lene aaya hai farishta.
Wo kehti ki meri mat karo sagai,
Main to dil de baithi hun, main ho gai parai..
Jab pata chala ladke ko to woh samaj na paaya,
Use laga ki nai padega pyaar pe koi bura saaya.
Milne na diya un dono ko ghar walo ne,
Is zulmi samaj ne band kar dia talon main.
Wo seh nai paaya aur gaya rote huye,
Dekh na paaya apne pyaar ko khote huye.
Din aaya kehar ka, widaai kaa,
Un dono ki aakhari judaai ka.
Shehnaiya baj rahi thi, baj raha tha dhol,
Ladka pee gaya zehar ladki ka naam bol.
Ek taraf patakhe, ek taraf janaaza,
Sab kehte”tha acha ladka par dukh tha taaza taaza”.
Ek cohrahe pe janaze se doli takrai,
Tabhi sab ko ye baat samaj aayi.
Doli main baithi ladki ne bhi de di jaan,
Kisi aur ki nai hona tha use, uska yehi tha maan.
Duniya ki reet ne ek aur kahani banai,
Is sab main ashiqon ne apni jaan jalai.
Samaj nai paaye ki sab kuch sahenge woh,
Jeeye na sahi saath mar kar rahenge woh..
Jeene marne ki jo ek baar hain kasmein khayein,
To rahenge ek saath, nahi sahenge wo judaai….

life..

Everyday I just look around,
Trying to hear some known sound..
Looking for a direction or some way,
So that I wont just have to sway.
Waiting for a light to fall,
Not only on me but on all.
To help me distinguish right and wrong,
Tht helps me grow, makes me strong.
The path that I take will then decide,
What will be my life, my fight.
Life just flows by n we never know,
We just live it day by day n see it go.
Sit up and just notice around,
So many things with which we r bound.
Love , friendship, care and fate,
Some tht make u jealous, some make u hate.
Make the most of the time u hav now,
Don’t sleep thru it and loose the WOW….